My husband Steve’s sweet, kind, generous all-around fabulous uncle Charlie just crossed over the rainbow bridge. We knew he was on borrowed time because of the type of cancer he had., but it still hurts like heck. Charlie was quiet, funny, and very talented musically, but most of all, he loved his wife, Betsy, and his two sons, Patrick and Joe. I know age doesn’t matter when your loved one dies, but Charlie was barely older than me. He should have had many more years ahead of him. His boys should have had more time. Betsy will be without her best friend far sooner than she ever anticipated I am sure. I am also sure that I freakin’ hate cancer!
Our youngest daughter, Ke’ili, has been braving chemotherapy for over two and a half years. Her treatment was extended because the doctor had to take her off her meds a few times. Either way, leukemia protocols are much longer than other cancer treatments. We just had her No Mo Chemo party a few weeks ago. It was an epic celebration that was already scheduled when the doctor added on time. We had family and friends come from all over the country. It was such a beautiful, loving tribute to a young woman who survived amid a pandemic. Each time she was hospitalized, she had to endure alone because of Covid. That alone makes her a hero. She did her time with grace, courage, and a sweet smile for all her healthcare providers. We were still high from the celebration when we got the bad news about Charlie. How can you celebrate when you discover a beloved family member has limited time left in this realm? Happy and sad at the same time. It’s a weird concept, but in this instance it fits. So, FYI even though you are grieving, you can still be happy about other parts of your life. Grief does not have to consume your entire existence. Funny stories or observations can still make you laugh.You can still feel joy when you hug a child or a beloved pet.
Well, Charlie left this world eight days after he was sent home from the clinic. He is missed and will be forever in our hearts. I know he was thrilled that Ke’ili was ending her chemo and that he prayed every day for her survival. He and Betsy called us almost daily during the first year and a half of treatment and breathed a little easier with us once she was on her maintenance schedule.
The world is a sadder place without Charlie Coulter in it. However, I am so grateful for all of the love, laughter, and encouragement he shared with me after I joined the family. Steve adored his uncle who was very special to him, and not just because they were so close in age. Please pray for Charlie’s loved ones and everyone you know who is grieving. We can all use a boost, right?
Rest in Love, uncle Charlie.
Be well,
Shirley
Thank you Benjamin Davies for the great photo via Unsplash!
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