When your loved one crosses over the rainbow bridge it hurts. Holidays are rough for the first few years. I think birthdays are painful forever. You always have the compulsion to add another year of “what ifs?” and “if only (s).” My son’s birthday is coming up in a few … Read the rest “Birthdays”
Happy 2019! Well, as happy as you can be when grieving…
It is difficult to think of yourself when things in your life get turned upside down. It gets worse when a loved one dies. You are so focused on the pain and sadness you might not tune in to … Read the rest “Self-care after”
Marty Rose and I grew up in the same neighborhood. He was in my older brothers’ age range. When I was a kid he would walk by on his way home from high school with an armload of books. He was always funny and cool and a real smart alec. … Read the rest “Reflections on childhood”
I recently saw the Northern Lights while in Iceland. It was spectacular. Seeing them made me think of my son and others who have died and gone to Heaven. The dancing lights seemed full of joy. I imagined Cory seeing them from the other side.
Right after I got back … Read the rest “The things people say”
No one grieves the same way or at the same pace. Families reeling from a loss, especially death, struggle with the differences because they don’t understand why others aren’t portraying the same feelings or behaving as him or her. It always bears repeating. No one grieves the same. Our grief … Read the rest “Find help”
I am reminded of a young boy named Komake as I sit on my front deck watching the palm trees sway. He was born on Oahu so his folks gave him a Hawaiian name. We met in Washington but Komake was part of the aina (the land) of where he … Read the rest “There is good grief”
A few weeks ago, you may or may not remember that I received a surprise from my friend Scott whose 3-year-old sarcastic email popped to the top of my list when I opened my cell. Well, he told me to let his family know he would be at his daughter’s … Read the rest “Precious memories”
Everyone will be forced to grieve at some point in time. If you are lucky it won’t happen until you are old enough to understand it. I had a grandparent die when I was young and I had no clue what was going on. In elementary school, a neighbor ended … Read the rest “Grief changes you, it really does”
The inevitable happened yesterday. My beautiful fur baby crossed over the rainbow bridge. Through sheer love and determination plus the aid of Chinese herb medicine and a few rounds of chemotherapy she gave us joy for two and a half bonus months. Maile Izzy Baby Lulu Enebrad Geller was like … Read the rest “Missing Maile”
I know hate is a strong word. In the case of cancer though it is the only appropriate word I can come up with. First my son, then me, then my baby brother, and countless friends and relatives…and now my beloved fur baby Maile Izzy Baby Lulu.
Our Christmas was … Read the rest “I hate cancer!”