When you suffer the loss of a loved one it can bring up old wounds, unexpressed grief or anger from previous deaths. It can be difficult to grieve properly if you are angry. It could be anger at the person who died or someone involved with him or her. I recently I had a discussion with siblings whose sister died and now they are faced with the deadbeat ex. There was a lot of anger getting in the way of their ability to grieve the death of their sister. I told them how Elisabeth Kubler Ross knew the power of externalizing angry feelings. My son was too little and too weak to tear up old telephone books and beat mattresses with a length of rubber hose, so I tied a dish towel in a knot at one end and let him beat the dust out of the sofa and chairs. He would beat things until he was spent. It always made him feel better. So, we talked about a rage room where you could throw old dishes and bash computers screens with a bat. A few days later I saw on FB an article about just such a thing. So, if you need to get your mads out, save your money and dust your mattresses and sofa with a knotted dish towel. It will help.