Hello,
I was recently interviewed by a writer for Good Housekeeping magazine. She wanted to know what I thought was important to say to grievers in a condolence card. Karla Pope shared the link with me, but now I cannot find it. So, this is what I wrote to her. She didn’t use all of the points I made as I was not the sole responder.
I think it is important to write a card and note because the griever needs all the support he or she can get. We often feel helpless when someone we care about dies and writing a kind note and offering support benefits the sender as well. We feel as if we have done something positive. My biggest tip for writing a sympathy note is to let the recipient know that you care about him or her and that you cared deeply for the person who died. Do not ask them to contact you if they need anything. Tell them you will follow up in a few weeks to offer your services to go shopping, clean their windows, sweep their garage, cook them a meal, or something tangible. Never make it about you and your experience with loss. Focus on the griever and his or her feelings. Absolutely NEVER say, “I know how you feel.” “He or She is in a better place.” “At least you have another child.” “They are no longer in pain.”
Here’s the link https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/a40119939/condolence-messages/
Coincidentally, I found a group on FB that features stories, questions, and general discussions about afterlife experiences. So, anyone who knows me already knows that Cory was a wealth of information derived from his out-of-body trips to “Summerland” the place others might call Heaven. I joined the group and felt compelled to share with the other members the YouTube story “Over the Rainbow Bridge-Cory’s Story.” I wanted to also share my blog with those who might need it. Well, I got blocked by the administrators. Honestly, I wasn’t selling anything. I didn’t even mention my books on purpose because I didn’t want to appear to be self-promoting. What do you all think I should say to help people without violating their rules? I appreciate any feedback you can offer.
Be Safe!
Shirley
Thanks, Unsplash for the great photo. Sorry, I don’t have the name of the photog.
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