You may find yourself more sensitive, irritable, less patient, and sad right now. It may not have occurred to you that it is because the holidays are approaching. The first few years after your loss, you expect to feel poorly on birthdays and holidays – mainly because others have warned you. You don’t expect it to start weeks prior, though. So, if you are feeling out of sorts more than usual, take a deep breath to calm yourself and bring forward a happy time that you shared with your loved one. It could take lots more deep breaths and good memories, but this should help. I know it does for me. Sad times, deep breathing, and happy memories are all part of the grief process.
PS. I will update and reprise my how to survive the holidays list and post soon.