2020 has been a dismal year for so many of us. Being forced to live in a bubble, jobs lost, health insurance lost, a government that has failed to provide adequate assistance for citizens who cannot pay rent, feed their families, etc. It just compounds the sadness for grievers. The upside of 2020 and being locked down is this year has been a time of serious reflection.
In the span of a few weeks Barb, one of dearest friends, Linda, who was like my older sister, and Bill, a cherished part of our family who was my son’s stress management doctor and my youngest daughter’s Godfather died. I am sad for myself, my family and the loved ones of each person. Everyone has to die – I know, I get that but it is never easy and grievers must face down their grief head on to get through to the other side.
Also, when someone you care about dies it brings up the pain of previous losses. It’s holiday time so that has its own triggers about the loved ones who won’t be seated at your table. Add that to 2020 isolation and no gatherings and it is a recipe for a whole new level of sadness. Traditions, yearly interactions, festivities —all stopped due to the fear of catching a deadly virus. Who could have imagined such a time? What can ya do?
Well, in an effort to do something positive and to honor the memory of my loved ones and because staying home means I don’t need new clothes, shoes, fun stuff – I decided to use the money to help others. My son Cory loved school and learning, so, via the International Rescue Committee I sponsored two girls’ education for a year in his name. For my brother Bobby and Steve’s dad, Ed, I donated to the CoolCapFund.org. They assist African farmers with modern tools and educate them how to use the tools thus, they can yield more crops with less effort. For my mom, Linda, and Barb I am donating to the Maui Food Bank. I still need to figure out a charity to honor Bill Womack and Michael Poth. Part of the enrichment is selecting the recipient organization that best reflects my loved ones’ lives. (I will update you later on which ones I chose.)
I feel really uplifted helping others while making a contribution in remembrance of my loved ones. Maybe you would too.
Be well, and Mele Kalikimaka!
Shirley
Mahalo James Wheeler for the fabulous photo.
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