I have recently been reminded of that old adage that says “you can’t see the forest for the trees.” Sometimes that happens when people are too interested in something and don’t see the whole picture and how it might impact others in a negative way. Those same trees can block out the sun and make one dim.
A friend of mine recently suffered through the death of her sister. She posted this question on FB the other day. I have my own opinion, but wanted to ask if anyone else has been asked such invasive, insensitive, and non-enlightened questions. Guess you got the hint of my opinion. If this has happened to you, how did you respond?
“Ok, when people learn that someone’s loved one had passed, I feel it’s a normal and acceptable thing for people to respond with, “I’m so sorry”, followed by, “How did they die?”, “Were they sick?” Or something to that nature. What I don’t get is.. someone asking if we received the autopsy results and if we found out the cause of death. Especially by people who never even knew the deceased…. What does it matter to you? At the point of nearly two months passed, shouldn’t it now be just the concern of the family? Someone enlighten me?”
Also, can anyone explain the motivation for asking someone such questions? Personal curiosity? Nosey? Rude? Just plain dim? What do you think?
Be well,
Shirley
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