I was flying home from Ireland a few weeks ago and looked out at the top of the clouds. It reminded me of Cory. The first time he saw the tops of clouds he asked if we could go play on them. I believe he got his wish.
As we … Read the rest
Living on the edge
Living on the edge of despair is common for grievers. It doesn’t matter how your child dies whether from an accident, disease or murder you feel as if your heart is ripped out of your chest, stomped on a million times, torn to shreds, and what’s left is shoved back … Read the rest
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No one grieves the same way or at the same pace. Families reeling from a loss, especially death, struggle with the differences because they don’t understand why others aren’t portraying the same feelings or behaving as him or her. It always bears repeating. No one grieves the same. Our grief … Read the rest
There is good grief
I am reminded of a young boy named Komake as I sit on my front deck watching the palm trees sway. He was born on Oahu so his folks gave him a Hawaiian name. We met in Washington but Komake was part of the aina (the land) of where he … Read the rest
Precious memories
A few weeks ago, you may or may not remember that I received a surprise from my friend Scott whose 3-year-old sarcastic email popped to the top of my list when I opened my cell. Well, he told me to let his family know he would be at his daughter’s … Read the rest
Messages from the other side
I woke up the other day and grabbed my cell phone as I always do. I have a habit of checking to make sure I don’t have any bad news from the mainland. Those of you who are parents may know that even if your kids are grown, you always … Read the rest
Grief changes you, it really does
Everyone will be forced to grieve at some point in time. If you are lucky it won’t happen until you are old enough to understand it. I had a grandparent die when I was young and I had no clue what was going on. In elementary school, a neighbor ended … Read the rest
1st Lesson-6 Word Lessons on Surviving a Devastating Dx
You feel off.
It could be a virus or infection. Persistent headaches, fever, unexplained aches, and bruises are some of the signs you should see your doctor. Don’t try to self-diagnose. Don’t Google it. Get to the doctor.
Simple right? Well, so many people ignore these symptoms and when finally … Read the rest
Missing Maile
The inevitable happened yesterday. My beautiful fur baby crossed over the rainbow bridge. Through sheer love and determination plus the aid of Chinese herb medicine and a few rounds of chemotherapy she gave us joy for two and a half bonus months. Maile Izzy Baby Lulu Enebrad Geller was like … Read the rest
15 Tips to help you get through the holidays
The holidays are stressful enough but when you add in grief it becomes a whole new challenge. This is a repeat post but one that has helped previously. Here are some things to think about as we approach the holidays.
1) Remember that your loved one wants you to be … Read the rest