What makes a friend, good friend, long-time friend, once best friend abandon grievers? Is it that they don’t know what to say? Is it too scary for him or her to face their own or a loved one’s mortality? I would love to hear your thoughts. Having experienced it myself when my son died, and hearing about it from countless grieving widows, widowers, siblings and parents — what creates this abandonment at the worst possible time in a person’s life? Yes, when support is needed the most, people vanish. People you thought you could count on, which makes it even worse. Then, some don’t have enough shame or sense, and try to reconnect after a bit of time, maybe when he or she thinks enough time has passed that the griever won’t emote all over the place. Maybe it is a multitude of reasons that I have not considered.
Have you disappeared on someone in need? Or have you experienced friends who have fled in self-preservation ignoring the fact that you are the person who lost a child, partner, sibling, parent, grandparent or dear friend and need love and kindness and support? Tell me in your words what happened and why.
Please send me your thoughts. I really want to know.
Thank you in advance.