This is a helpful blog post written by guest blogger Lucille Rosetti. Her contact information is at the end. I hope it helps you.
4 Steps to Getting a Fresh Start After the Death of a Loved One
Sometimes grief can be so overwhelming that it feels the only thing you can do is get a new start. While this may sound dramatic to some, getting a fresh start is a valid way to overcome grief. However, it is not a decision that should be made lightly.
1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
Before you rush into any decisions, give yourself plenty of time to grieve. Keep in mind there is no right or wrong way so take all the time you need. Huffington Post contributor Margaret A. Howard, MFA, LCSW encourages you to embrace your emotions and seek support. Confiding in and leaning on friends and family is an excellent way to cope.
As you reach the acceptance stage of the grieving process, you can start considering any major life changes. If you are thinking about moving out of your home, you need to make sure it is a grounded decision. This will keep the extra stress of moving at bay until you are ready to handle it.
2. Deciding to Move
It can be overwhelming living among your loved one’s possessions, which makes it hard to move on. Getting a fresh start is one way to help yourself overcome a loss. Our brains organize memories based on big life events and moving somewhere new can help you heal and begin to truly live again. Do not let your loved ones or employer give you a hard time about this decision. You need to do what is best for you.
Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. recommends structuring your move around new goals geared toward generating happiness. Now is the time to pursue a lifelong dream or move closer to friends and family. Getting a fresh start is an opportunity that you should take full advantage of.
3. Selling Your House
It is difficult to sell a home under the best of circumstances. If you are emotionally vulnerable, the task will be even more so. Resist the urge to price your home low to sell it as fast as possible or overpricing it because you are scared the next owners will not appreciate as much as you and your loved one did. Your house is an investment, and you should sell it for its full value.
Take a look at similar houses in your area and see what they have recently sold for. This should give you an accurate idea of what to expect. A real estate agent can also help you price your home accurately. Not only will they walk you through the process, but they also will take charge so you do not have to be involved in this emotional process.
4. Packing Your House
The most difficult of this process is undoubtedly packing up your home and deciding which of your loved one’s things you should take with you. Do not be surprised if this is an emotional process. While it can be tempting to have a friend or family member do this for you, it is not recommended. They do not know your heart and mind and may inadvertently get rid of something you may want to keep.
Instead, let them help but remember that you are in charge. Lifehacker’s Leigh Anderson recommends taking it one room at a time to stay organized. Touch everything as you go, you may be surprised at what causes an emotional reaction and what doesn’t. Sort things into five piles: keep, donate, sell, give to family and friends, and toss. This will ensure only the important things are going with you to your new home.
Moving somewhere new is a huge change. Do not underestimate the challenges that will come with it, but also allow yourself to be excited. You are on to a new adventure and ready to begin the next chapter of your life.
Lucille Rosetti, Guest Blogger
Sure, I have listed them for you below:
seek support – https://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-howard/11-healthy-ways-to-grieve_b_4757259.html
organize memories – https://www.thecut.com/2016/09/how-to-change-your-life-take-advantage-of-fresh-starts.html
new goals – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201212/10-tools-restarting-your-life
full value. – https://www.redfin.com/what-is-my-home-worth
real estate agent – https://www.thebalance.com/top-reasons-to-hire-a-real-estate-agent-1798906
packing – https://www.containerstore.com/organization-projects/general/tip/downsizing-home
not recommended. – https://www.griefandsympathy.com/cleaningouthouseafterdeath.html
one room – https://lifehacker.com/how-to-deal-with-your-parents-stuff-when-they-die-1818537528
Hope this helps. Thank you so much in advance!