Is there something wrong if we don’t feel sad when someone dies? What if we do not share the same religious or spiritual beliefs? What if the person who died isn’t your favorite, to begin with? There are many factors involved. We could probably all do with a lot less … Read the rest
Just as grief is a natural occurrence when you experience loss, guilt is a normal emotion that comes hand in hand with grief. No matter how someone dies, there is always the thought that we shoulda done this that and the other thing. If only we had been given more … Read the rest
This isn’t the first post I have written about grief when a pet dies. Feather, fin, and fur babies are just as much family members as humans. When our pets die the grief is just as painful as the loss of any loved one. Some folks do not understand the … Read the rest
Marty Rose and I grew up in the same neighborhood. He was in my older brothers’ age range. When I was a kid he would walk by on his way home from high school with an armload of books. He was always funny and cool and a real smart alec. … Read the rest
So, lately, we have been discussing the attitudes of people in general. We meaning me, my husband and my mom-in-law and a few friends. Not sure if the way people are behaving is due to the unease many people have felt since 45 was “elected”. The negativity caused by the … Read the rest
I was flying home from Ireland a few weeks ago and looked out at the top of the clouds. It reminded me of Cory. The first time he saw the tops of clouds he asked if we could go play on them. I believe he got his wish.
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I recently saw the Northern Lights while in Iceland. It was spectacular. Seeing them made me think of my son and others who have died and gone to Heaven. The dancing lights seemed full of joy. I imagined Cory seeing them from the other side.
Right after I got back … Read the rest
Living on the edge of despair is common for grievers. It doesn’t matter how your child dies whether from an accident, disease or murder you feel as if your heart is ripped out of your chest, stomped on a million times, torn to shreds, and what’s left is shoved back … Read the rest
No one grieves the same way or at the same pace. Families reeling from a loss, especially death, struggle with the differences because they don’t understand why others aren’t portraying the same feelings or behaving as him or her. It always bears repeating. No one grieves the same. Our grief … Read the rest
I am reminded of a young boy named Komake as I sit on my front deck watching the palm trees sway. He was born on Oahu so his folks gave him a Hawaiian name. We met in Washington but Komake was part of the aina (the land) of where he … Read the rest